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‘When love has carried us above all things . . . we receive in peace the Incomprehensible Light, enfolding us and penetrating us. What is this Light, if it be not a contemplation of the Infinite, and an intuition of Eternity? We behold that which we are, and we are that which we behold; because our being, without losing anything of its own personality, is united with the Divine Truth.” Ruysbroeck
The darkest week of the year marked by the Winter solstice has arrived along with Mercury retrograde, this is always a time of truth, when communications seem disrupted and misunderstandings are rife, misunderstandings themselves are part of the truth of being human. Mercury is retrograde from 19th December – 8th January, giving us a chance to address short comings and mistakes and correct the course of events.
The experience of darkness, shadow or Dark Night of the Soul, is necessary in order to feel the emerging light as celebratory, many people want to avoid the darkness. There is something fearful about the absence of physical light because it evokes the dark side of the psyche; your fears and depressed moods, your envies and secret longings.
Ask yourself; ‘What truth does this reveal to me, and why have I needed it revealed in this way at this time?’
In the darkest part of the year when the days are shortest, Mother Nature reminds every body to slow down, enjoy time with loved ones, to be open to listening. A time to move towards the vibration of compassion to become more effective in your relationships.
The days after the winter solstice begin to lengthen, shifting from the darkest part of the year back into the ever increasing light, is a perfect time to clear the old to make room for the new.
Many people feel unsettled about the global changes taking place, this has been accompanied by low vibrational emotions such as anger, blame, self-judgment, hopelessness, frustration, fear and worry, that do not serve consciousness nor good decision making.
Distress is alleviated by attending to yourself and your inner turmoil.
Everything you do and think affects the people in your life and their reactions to you. The choices you make have consequences. Each of us carries within the capacity to change the world in small ways for better or worse.
Every single effect within the world, upon the earth has a cause, an original starting point.
All paths have an original first step and from that first step comes a chain reaction of events with further offshoots spanning out in all directions and so on duplication and replication takes place.
All your thoughts and your behaviour and movements affect the entire universe according to the law of cause and effect.
When was the last time you were truly kind to yourself? Not just rewards and gifts, but true kindness?
Only when you have established a kind relationship with yourself can you begin to be truly loving with others; love is generated and experienced from within. In this state you are able to really open your hearts in our treatment of others.
Learning to treat yourself with kindness, to open your heart to yourself and others is the first and most important step in cultivating loving-kindness and compassion;
The passage of Mercury retrograde is a gift from the heavens giving you an opportunity to reflect, take stock, review, and correct mistakes you may previously have made in the rush, take your time to make conscious choices and plant seeds of new perspectives.
When you experience the true depth of the darkness of despair, tears might well up spontaneously, it can have a soothing effect. It changes your physiology from sympathetic nervous system defense and denial patterns into parasympathetic relaxation states. It improves your perspective on the world, especially if this disclosure is shared with another person. When you give into the exhaustion, you might fall into a restful and healing sleep, a sleep that could last a few minutes or hours. You can awaken feeling loving kindness compassion renewed and rested.
Being in contact with your bodily sensations, hidden rage towards a current or past injustice, an unexpressed desire for fulfillment or failure is not about acting on them but simply about feeling them. When you do this, what you have hidden from yourself in darkness can now be revealed in the light of awareness. You can become more completely yourself, more confident and more fully alive.
If then, we would indeed restore mankind by truly botanic, magnetic, or natural means, let us first be as simple and well as Nature ourselves, dispel the clouds which hang over our brows, and take up a little life into our pores. Do not stay to be an overseer of the poor, but endeavor to become of the worthies of the world.” Henry David Thoreau
Sometimes the “life” you need to take in feels like a retreat and a loss. Nature herself waxes and wanes, grows and recedes, lives and dies. In the midst of this shifting and change is one certainty.
The inner eternal light will naturally follow the dark time of the soul; it’s the way of the earth and of all her creatures.
By practicing the relaxation techniques on a daily basis, you learn to let go of the unhealthy emotional states that lead to the physical and emotional tension. Meditation includes a strong element of bodily relaxation.
You can learn how to directly affect your emotional and mental states, promoting calmness and contentment. Learning how your body/ mind interacts will help you to influence your emotional states by regulating your posture and breathing and lifestyle.
Restoring Mind, Body, Spirit Retreat can help you to become more aware of how to make conscious choices that lead to outcomes that are more supportive of your well being and happiness.
What is out of balance in your life? Relationship with yourself or other people?
Daily Practice: Take time to explore areas of importance within your body, mind, and spirit. Which areas are affected?
How is your health, how do you inhabit your body?
Is your intellect under stimulated, what do you need to feed your sense of awe and curiosity in life? We are our thoughts. Your thoughts precede your actions; with a change of mind you can change your behaviour and experiences.
Are your emotions out of reach or out of control? Are you receiving enough Love and affection? Perhaps your relationships need a change. Perhaps the amount of love and contentment in your life is at an all time low? Are you suppressing emotions with substances and behaviour? Repressed feelings do not disappear. They can influence your behaviour and can create illness and disease in your body if not expressed; rendering you disconnected from yourself and others.
Is your ability to find balance in all relationships circumstances and to be present to joy and love diminished?
Are your work relationships difficult? Is the career you are pursuing harder than you expected, have faith that the tide will turn soon.
What is your relationship with money like? Are your finances in a ram shackled state? Do you need to practice self discipline? Are you open to receive abundantly in all areas?
What is your relationship like with yourself? Become conscious of the decisions you make that lead you to greater balance or discord in your life.
Transformation occurs when you consciously take action, bringing with it clarity, passion and commitment to your growth and well being.
There is no better time than now to shift your life in the direction of your dreams.
DO NOT dwell on negative areas or scarcity in your life.
Shift your attention; shift your energy to receive that which you are giving out energetically.
True love emerges from a state of emotional balance. One of the purposes of being in a relationship is to maintain a loving equilibrium. If one partner is manic and up, the other partner helps bring them back down into balance. If one is down and depressed, the other will help lift them up. If one partner becomes arrogant, the other brings them down. If one becomes deflated, the other helps them up. That is how a loving how relationship works.
This balancing act maintains the divine order and true love.
The moment you achieve balance and observe the perfect equilibrium around you, you will be liberated.
You come to know that the world is perfectly balanced, both within and without.
Only then are you able to manage your own life and no longer be controlled by the good or bad opinion of others.
You begin to create your own destiny and allow the enlightened part of you to direct your life, rather than let yourself be ruled by the part of you that is wounded the part that both hopes and fears.
When you begin to see the balance everywhere, you awaken to the possibility that maybe there is a hidden order and intelligence to becoming conscious in your relationships.
Love has two sides: support and challenge.
Supporting someone can make a person weak and dependent, or encourage and nurture their capacity for self love.
Looking for elusive, one-sided events in a two-sided universe is the root of people’s so-called suffering. When you embrace the balance and the truth, love surrounds you.
Focus on the positive aspects of your life. Today take action to restore balance in your life and start Living from The Heart©
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Aisha Ali is a much sought after relationship specialist. She is known for her intuitive insight, she is very skilled at getting to the core of issues and helping individuals and couples transform unwanted repeated patterns. Her clients experience support clarity, awareness and a sense of peace, balance and accomplishment.