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Today spend time throughout the day giving thanks for all that is going right in your life. Too often we dwell on what is going wrong.
When we complain we weaken our resolve and ability to find solutions. Dwell on what works in your life today. Make a list of everything you are grateful for.
Begin with I am grateful for… This practice gains momentum when practiced with patience over time. Notice your distractions. Evoke feelings of gratitude as you write – do not worry if it does not come easily. Enjoy the feelings when they arrive, feel them deeply in each cell of your body.
In order to welcome love into your lives become aware and let go of some of your beliefs about Love, what you learnt from a young age whilst growing up, from your Mother, Father, siblings and significant people in your lives.
Listen to the deep internalised messages; feel them in your body and how they may have influenced some of your decisions now as an adult.
What messages did you receive? Are they true, are you shaping your life to the same soundtrack? What negative messages are you holding onto?
Take a piece of paper and draw a line down the centre so you have two columns record the negative messages and next to each one write down what replace the old messages with a new oneI.e.: ‘No one loves me’ on the right hand side you would counter this with ‘I love and approve of myself’
Take some time to write down what you learnt about Love. Today write down and acknowledge what needs to be altered. Each day take a moment to work on each of these messages. Get support if you need to.
Once you stop telling yourself the story about your life and how you are loved and love – they will have less power over you – you are free to shape your own destiny.
By loving yourself you allow others to love you back.
Awareness of your physical body can help you tap into your emotional self, shifting your focus from outside to inside.
Your mind / body is a direct reflection of your emotional body. Listen to your body and respond accordingly – if you feel tired take time out to relax. If you have an abundance of energy use your body, if you feel a creative pull go and create something paint, write, draw, and move.
Feelings are experienced in your body; an awareness of your bodily state can enhance your ability to identify your feelings.
Practice: Make a scan of your body, Sitting or lying down in a comfortable position (savasana is corpse pose lying flat on the ground arms by your side legs about hip width apart.), take a moment to consciously take in several deep breathes and relax. Close your eyes and bring your focus to this present moment and your physical self. There is no need to try to do anything – just be present and passive. If you need to move to get more comfortable do so if you feel the need to tense a certain body part in order to let go of tension then do whatever brings greater comfort and ease. Begin scanning your body by drawing your attention to any part of your body that asks for attention. Beginning perhaps with your head, face, jaw, eyes, ears, and skull. Tune in to what is happening here. What do you notice? Do your best to remain as passive and non-judgmental as possible. You are encouraged to become an objective observer of your experience. At the same time, carefully observe your head, both deep inside and on a surface level. If you notice tension, tightness or contracted muscles, consciously release and relax those areas.
As you feel ready, progress down to your neck, shoulders upper and lower arms and torso. Again, notice what is happening in your heart. Carefully observe your back, spine and chest area, both deep inside them and on the surface. Again, if you notice tension, tightness or contracted muscles, consciously release and relax those areas. Progress now to your abdomen and notice what is occurring here. From there, move on to your lower abdomen, hips, pelvis, buttocks and thighs. Next, focus on your legs and feet. Once you have finished focus on your hands and fingers. Finish this exercise by taking a few more deep breaths and turning your awareness back to your entire physical self, which includes all of the parts on which you have been focusing.
Many people have not been taught how to receive, it is an innate skill. It’s never too late to unlearn the conditioning that veils your ability to open up and experience love, joy and aliveness.
Your task today is to become aware of how you create blocks to receiving today.
Ask yourself what do you deserve? You may find some beliefs about yourself and others that prevent you from aligning yourself to allow more love into your life. Be aware of how you respond to others when they show love and affection. Do you get uncomfortable when someone shows you kindness or gives you a compliment?
How you respond is exactly how you treat the people that love you.
Notice what happens when you think of making positive shifts in your life? Whether it is in your career, financial, love or relationship situation, does fear arise? If so you are holding onto a belief that will limit your ability to receive.
Consciously invite the fear to surface and spend some time listening to it. Experience it in your body do not judge it, allow it to be in the room with you, pour love, compassion and understanding onto this part as you would with a young child to help them heal and grow.
Your daily experience of Love begins with being open to receive as much as you are able to give Love.
Give yourself plenty of space today to grow and be yourself and shine in your uniqueness. Give yourself space to give and receive abundantly. Be open to beautiful things such as ideas, openness, truth, joy, healing, and include others.
Daily Practice: Take a deep grounding, calming and detoxifying breath. Breath in and fully inhabit your body reminding yourself that you are here and alive. Affirm that ‘I am enough’.
The act of giving and receiving Love does not change this. ‘I am enough’.
Today you have freedom to choose what to think, where to go and who you surround yourself with, appreciate what and who is in front of you today. Use your freedom in a loving way. Choose Love.
Be open to invitations and make connections by making invitations to others.
Become more discerning with what you give. Give truly from your heart without expectation.
Stay conscious of how receieving empowers those who give to you your attention by listening. You can give your appreciation through your thoughtful observation of others. By really seeing you offer your quiet observation and presence. Accept others and yourself.
There are many different ways of loving. Do not reject Love simply because you cannot Love in the way others do, do not reject Love because a person does not love in the way you expect and understand love to be shown. Discover your core of love and learn to bring that into your everyday life.
‘There’s nothing you can do that can’t be done.
Nothing you can sing that can’t be sung.
Nothing you can say, but you can learn
How to play the game
Nothing you can make that can’t be made.
No one you can save that can’t be saved.
Nothing you can do, but you can learn
How to be you in time
Daily Practice, Meditation: Get comfortable and quiet and focus on travelling into the core of love. Be there right now. Be ok with whatever you experience if nothing happens be ok with this and imagine what it would be like with all your senses visualize what it would be like to be there right now. Use language to describe images to yourself;’ it’s like the folds of petals’, or a ‘running waterfall’. ‘It feels like basking in the sun warming each cell of my body.’ Take some time to get to know your core. Take time to journey to the centre of love.
This is a very simple exercise, please use it often it will become easier with practice. You can recall what it feels like when you last experienced your core of love, it will become easier and easier to experience. Your experience may change also be open.
If you were not given enough love as a child, how does this affect your capacity to love? How is this resolved? You may experience difficulty connecting with your core of love, as you do not know what love feels like. Allow the lack of love to motivate your desire to become ennobled rather than hardened. You may experience a reconnection with something that is your birthright. You may realize that your core is something that cannot be taken from you. Your connection with your core of Love does not prevent you from being wounded, nor does it heal previous wounds.
Taking reasonability to heal your wounds consciously strengthens your connection to your core which gives you strength because love heals. When you reach a state of total love, you are impervious to wounds.
Please share your encounters with your core of Love here in the comments.
Today do not take any relationship or encounter for granted, be open to loving.
Even when you find yourself in trying circumstances see if you can allow and observe your emotional reactions, then melt back into the core of love, your heart.
According to Mohondas K. Gandhi, “if your wishes are pure, then they become true”.
Your thoughts can become negative with dysfunctional thoughts, feelings, or beliefs.
As you transform your thoughts, you can transform your feelings and transform your life.
The truth is that every single one of us has greatness and immortal genius inside.
It is important to follow your vision, intuition, and inspiration so you can achieve what you are here to accomplish in life.
Everyone wants to love and be loved, to appreciate and be appreciated, and everyone wants to live his or her dreams.
So begin today by allowing Love to inhabit all that you do.
‘Your heart has not to open to others. Your heart has to open to yourself.’
The Anahata Chakra is the seat of the Divine Self (Atma). Anahata means “unstruck” which relates to the constant rhythmic beat or vibration of the heart. There is a sound that is non-physical and this transcendental sound vibrates endlessly as the heart.
Located near the centre of the breastbone or sternum, this chakra represents higher consciousness and love. The Heart chakra is associated with the heart, lungs, thymus gland, arms, hands, lower lung and circulatory system. If we live from the Heart, we treat everyone with kindness and offer forgiveness freely. In this heart space, we find balance between our earthly desires and spiritual pursuits. The heart chakra acts as the balance point for all the chakras. It governs your relationships and how you interact with others. A balanced heart chakra is expressed in acceptance of self and others, personal values and ethics, following one’s unique direction in life.
Many of us have felt the pain of heart break and the deep ache of loss, the heaviness of sorrow of grief, hatred, anger and of jealousy. The fear of betrayal and loneliness.
Some signs that the Heart Chakra is out of balance are:
Lack of self discipline
Being cruel and critical of others and self and Passive aggressive
Questioning the existence of love
Difficulty in relationships
Living vicariously through others
Dependence on others for your happiness
When your heart chakra is closed it is very hard to love. Some people repeat painful experiences by going from one tumultuous relationship to another. Some people sabotage relationships, by being unfaithful or creating arguments. Some people close themselves off to relationships, afraid of intimacy or emotional pain.
Daily Practice: Get comfortable and close your eyes and focusing on your heart. Observe your heart centre, notice its colour, a healthy heart chakra emits a clear, stunning, emerald green light. If that light is clouded, dimmed, an odd colour, or the vortex seems shut up tight, it needs to be cleansed and opened. Visualize a beautiful emerald green light that nurtures and bathes your heart in unconditional love. Take a deep breath, and on the exhalation, say “yaammmmm” aloud in one long syllable.
Feel the sound vibration in your body and notice where it vibrates, feel the energy moving from the base of your spine to your heart chakra. Continue breathing deeply and repeat the sound yam on each exhalation until you feel infused with a feeling of peace and serenity.
What emotional wounds do I need to heal?
Are there relationships current or past require healing?
Are my wounds causing me to try and control people or situations around me?
Am I allowing the wounds of others to control me? How do I let that happen?
Do I need to forgive myself? Who needs forgiveness?
What is out of balance in your life? Relationship with yourself or other people?
Daily Practice: Take time to explore areas of importance within your body, mind, and spirit. Which areas are affected?
How is your health, how do you inhabit your body?
Is your intellect under stimulated, what do you need to feed your sense of awe and curiosity in life? We are our thoughts. Your thoughts precede your actions; with a change of mind you can change your behaviour and experiences.
Are your emotions out of reach or out of control? Are you receiving enough Love and affection? Perhaps your relationships need a change. Perhaps the amount of love and contentment in your life is at an all time low? Are you suppressing emotions with substances and behaviour? Repressed feelings do not disappear. They can influence your behaviour and can create illness and disease in your body if not expressed; rendering you disconnected from yourself and others.
Is your ability to find balance in all relationships circumstances and to be present to joy and love diminished?
Are your work relationships difficult? Is the career you are pursuing harder than you expected, have faith that the tide will turn soon.
What is your relationship with money like? Are your finances in a ram shackled state? Do you need to practice self discipline? Are you open to receive abundantly in all areas?
What is your relationship like with yourself? Become conscious of the decisions you make that lead you to greater balance or discord in your life.
Transformation occurs when you consciously take action, bringing with it clarity, passion and commitment to your growth and well being.
There is no better time than now to shift your life in the direction of your dreams.
DO NOT dwell on negative areas or scarcity in your life.
Shift your attention; shift your energy to receive that which you are giving out energetically.
True love emerges from a state of emotional balance. One of the purposes of being in a relationship is to maintain a loving equilibrium. If one partner is manic and up, the other partner helps bring them back down into balance. If one is down and depressed, the other will help lift them up. If one partner becomes arrogant, the other brings them down. If one becomes deflated, the other helps them up. That is how a loving how relationship works.
This balancing act maintains the divine order and true love.
The moment you achieve balance and observe the perfect equilibrium around you, you will be liberated.
You come to know that the world is perfectly balanced, both within and without.
Only then are you able to manage your own life and no longer be controlled by the good or bad opinion of others.
You begin to create your own destiny and allow the enlightened part of you to direct your life, rather than let yourself be ruled by the part of you that is wounded the part that both hopes and fears.
When you begin to see the balance everywhere, you awaken to the possibility that maybe there is a hidden order and intelligence to becoming conscious in your relationships.
Love has two sides: support and challenge.
Supporting someone can make a person weak and dependent, or encourage and nurture their capacity for self love.
Looking for elusive, one-sided events in a two-sided universe is the root of people’s so-called suffering. When you embrace the balance and the truth, love surrounds you.
Focus on the positive aspects of your life. Today take action to restore balance in your life and start Living from The Heart©
30 days to consciously bring love into your life.
Today I invite you to surrender and go with the flow. Going with the flow brings serenity creating space for expansion and for healing.
Going with the flow is not being passive or lazy. It is not about letting things happen to you. It is not about aimless wandering.
Flow is life energy itself. When you go with the flow, you are surfing Life force. It is about wakeful trust and total collaboration with what is showing up for you.
When you are no longer struggling in the wrong direction, diverting your energy towards unnecessary distractions, your energy is free to go towards healing. Deep surrender in your life leads you to a profound space of acceptance.
Put the brakes on your desires and wanting, and fully accept what is.
Surrender. Allow your heart and mind to soften and be still. Do not be rigid in your thoughts. Allow for flexibility of ideas. Do not be rigid in your heart. Allow for an even flow of energy inward and outward. What you have in your heart is a gift to others. Allow it to flow in both directions out of and into your heart as your breath enters and leaves your body.
Daily Practice: Stand on your head. Salamba Sirsasana or Headstand. (Please Do Not attempt this, if it is not part of your regular practice, you can do this symbolically) Headstands allow for the heart to be above the head, symbolizing spirit over ego. See the world from another angle, see things as they really are, not how you are. Surrender your ideas about what you want. Your different or inverted view of the world may frighten people. Fear can turn to hostility; new ideas can be frightening to many people because it upsets the natural order of life. Those that fear change will fight it. You being the face of change may bear the brunt of that hostility. If you can accept that, you will be a powerful force. Fight it, and you will be weakened. Live as you live. Be an example. Have no fear. Let your surrender empower you.
Contemplation: What do you expect from the sacrifices you are making? What are you devoted to? What are you hung up on? What do you need to get straight? What do you need to give up? What are you trying to escape? Surrnder by ceasing your focus on the ego and the mind. The mind and the ego produce; worry, anger, fear, doubt, insecurity and a sense of importance. Accept that what you think is important, is really not.
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Aisha Ali is a much sought after relationship specialist. She is known for her intuitive insight, she is very skilled at getting to the core of issues and helping individuals and couples transform unwanted repeated patterns. Her clients experience support clarity, awareness and a sense of peace, balance and accomplishment.