Conscious relationships
They support aliveness, satisfaction and growth in intimate relationships. Relationships are a scared path. A Conscious relationship is a path of self-realisation. Being conscious is more than being physically awake and more than just being aware. Awareness refers to knowingness at the mental level, while consciousness is a state of knowingness that encompasses all mental, emotional and spiritual aspects of yourself. To be conscious is to be aware of your thoughts, emotions, existence, sensations, and surroundings.
Humanity & Consciousness
Humanity is on the brink of major transformation. Relationships are the missing link to creating a collective consciousness of humanity, contributing to a healthy, happy, whole, and peaceful planet. You can relate to others and yourself responsibly and compassionately, which can be transformative.
Responsibility is the willingness to take ownership of any “baggage” you bring to your relationships. When you heal your relationships with yourself, your partners, your family, and your communities, you create the possibility of a conscious and peaceful world. It begins with you. If you bring your entire reality into full consciousness and take positive action, you will find yourself in the flow of life. In this state of grace, ease, and lightness, you find yourself no longer dependent or reliant on things that are in a certain way good or bad for your well-being. The consciousness you operate within is equivalent to the lens with which you see reality. Your perceptions, beliefs, mindsets and values now result from the consciousness you are operating in. When you experience a shift in your consciousness due to an Aha moment or inner realisation, you are breaking away from your old consciousness, old belief systems and attitudes. You begin to see things in a new light.
The Shadow & Consciousness Many people, at some point, run into all the unconscious stuff they have never looked at. One day, the unconscious material from the past can become re-enacted or recreated in an undesirable form. Everyone carries a shadow and wounds from the past, which are inevitably triggered by close relationships. In other words, you may expect to feel abandoned, not valued or listen to, worthless, trapped, rejected, unlovable. You may look for this unconsciously.
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When something difficult occurs, uncomfortable feelings emerge, or things do not go according to plan. In these situations, you might fail to see that these difficult feelings stem from your relational patterns – the past affecting you in the ‘here and now’. The other person does not cause these feelings and issues; they have been created from your past wounding, beliefs and relational patterns. Be conscious about your relationships by not attributing blame, hate, anger and guilt. Do not enter into bouts of insanity, despair, depression and self-doubt. You will feel powerless here, constantly looking outside for approval and answers. You can step into conscious relationships with yourself and others and gain peace and clarity.
Becoming conscious requires you to look at your past and current issues in relationships and take responsibility for them; only then can you create something new and dissolve dysfunctional relational patterns. Most of your core wounds, fears and traumas develop as a child within your relationship with your primary caregivers. Often, people who have suffered trauma consciously try to suppress their recollection of the painful events.
‘Over time the forgetting becomes automatic rather than wilful, in the same way that riding a bicycle requires a great deal of conscious mental and physical effort during the learning phase but becomes automatic over time’. David SpiegelRelationships work when you are aware of looking at yourself truthfully and exploring how your life experiences as a child have shaped how you respond to life now. A conscious relationship requires people who encourage one another’s growth; their relationship strives towards something more significant than gratification. The relationship is a journey of evolution, where people create growth opportunities. You are here to grow. Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. When growth stops, you will feel like something has gone wrong. Without growth, you are not fulfilling your path. Learn more about conscious relationships with yourself and others Conscious relationship weekend 2nd – 3rd June
The Gift of Vulnerability & Listening When you connect deeply with another person, your heart naturally opens toward a whole new world of possibilities. This opening of your heart can make you aware of how you are stuck and asleep. Having the courage to be open takes you into the realm of vulnerability. Here, you are seen fully. Love requires you to see and be seen in the fullness of yourself. When you gift vulnerability, you create a space for the other person to share their vulnerability with you. Here, you can love and be loved for who you and they truly are. Gift someone your entire presence, with an open heart, without judgment or trying to find a solution. Your emotional experiences are not problems; they are simply experiences.
‘Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced’. Soren Kierkegaard
Trust & Integrity in Conscious Relationships Trust is vital in conscious relationships. It begins with you believing in the value of your partners’ words and the integrity of their character. When you mistrust others, it is a mirror of the mistrust you have of yourself.
A conscious relationship requires you to have integrity and keep your word. If you are trustworthy and have integrity, you will have relationships that reflect this. When this is not happening, and you are growing in different directions, you may choose to end a relationship. Be open and present to receive all the lessons and grace a relationship can offer. To reap this bounty, you must fully commit to being in the relationship with your whole being for the time you consciously choose to be in the relationship. Relationships inevitably bring you up against your most painful unresolved emotional conflicts from the past, continually stirring you up against things in yourself that you cannot stand—all your worst fears, neuroses, and fixations. If you focus on only one side of your nature at the expense of the other, you have no path and, therefore, cannot find a way forward. This also limits the possibilities of your relationships as well. Love is a transformative power precisely because it brings the two sides of yourself—the expansive and the contracted, the awake and the asleep—into direct contact. Love challenges you to keep expanding in precisely places you imagine you can not open any further.
‘Intimate relationship is perhaps the ashram of the 21st Century—a place especially ripe with transformational possibility, a combination crucible and sanctuary for the most profound sort of healing and awakening, through which the full integration of our physical, mental, emotional, psychological, and spiritual dimensions is more than possible’Robert Augustus Masters
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